I think i've got my starting problem solved, about a year ago i had the transmission rebuilt. Well the idiots that installed it forgot a bolt and it somehow tapped a bracket that has rubbed my cranksensor wiring and rubbed it raw. This in might have shorted the computer out and caused it to act up. The other day it was acting up and i tapped it and the relay started ticking, so i am sure this is the problem. New one $400, one form a parts yard $100 bucks shipping and all.