i just got one of these hid kits and also the relay. i understand how to wire all of it except one of the connectors that are on the relay. it did not come with directions but i found a diagram of the wiring on line and it says that, that one specific plug plugs into the stock oem wire harness . i cannot find it unless i may just have the wrong relay by chance? i am puttin them in a 1996 dodge ram with the 5.9 gas .