My 09 only has 11,600 on it.Alot of stop and go,short trips. When should I change plugs or should I just pull and check?

Just pull and check a couple. When I replaced mine at 30K they looked fine - replaced anyways.

the plugs have a special coating that acts like anti-seize. When reusing the plugs, the coating gets scratched and worn off so apply some anti-seize if reinstalling a used plug. I just did the plugs on my '09 and they did not look that bad to me. Look in the DIY section, https://dodgeforum.com/forum/4th-gen...ug-change.html

I didn't need the second 5/8 socket and another member used a swivel adapter instead of the 1" extension