On my 2001 Durango 4.7 4x4 on one side the suspension is just touching the little rubber stopper thingy and on the other side it's about 1/2" off of it... What should they be at

 

Sounds like adjustment time. There is a link in the DIY section. The ride height should be 73mm +/- 3mm. It will tell you how to get that measurement.

 

Ive Read that Center of Tire and Center of torsion bar bolt on lower control arm are supposed to be within a certain measurement of each other. Which on is it, now I am panicked because I am getting ready to do a T/S lift and I want to make sure I have it in spec before i start...ahhhhh...don't mean to hijack the thread!