The headrest on our 2012 dodge journey is in the way for my wife to paralell park or to back up. I can't lower them to see over and can't remove them so she can see. any sugestions.

 

Use Mirrors or buy a back-up camera to get a better view. 100 dollars at pep boys or sumthin'

 

I always put the 1-1/4" round convex spot mirrors
on my sideviews,they allow you to see the curb
and what's to the rear side.
The wireless back up cameras are now fairly
common accessories in most auto suppliers
and in our area often sell for $80-$100.