I have obtained the roomates myspace password through unethical means. I found that she was not only talking to that one guy on the phone, but she was also talking crap about me to some guy in Las Vegas, and trying to meet up with some guy in California that his number has also been showing up on the phone bill. She also deleted her inbox and sent box but neglected to delete her trash folder.
I just sent her a text playing dumb asking who it was with his phone number, told her I was reviewing the phone bill further. she has not responded to my text, She i sat work right now....I think.

 

Is she still playing the " I wanna work things out " role?

 

She sure is, was hysterical this morning was trying to stop me from leaving the house, threatened suicide. the whole nine yards.

 

I think it's time to get your affairs in order.

Start doccumenting everything and start looking for a good lawyer. What you are doing isn't healthy for either of you. You've got to move on. Start hiding cash. Start removing things that you don't want to loose. I'm not sure what you do for a a living these days or if they have alimony in your area, but the less you make when you file for divorce, the less she is entitled to. You can always hook the kids up on the side, but as far as the courts are concerned you want to be asbroke as possible.Also, if you have any joint credit cards, cancel them now. Whatever debt she incurs right now you are on the hook for.

You've got to be realistic, and you've got to get your**** together. Playing these games is only delaying the inevitable.

 

You are right. I truly wanted to give her a chance to prove herself as I have a family. but after reading teh crap on her myspace tonight, Which I told her to cancel just makes me look and feel like a fool. I am a credit collector for mortgages and my base salary is next to nothing, a little more than 36k annually I make my money on over time and bonuses which in my state they can not touch as it is not stable income.

 

Here's what I would do if I were you.

Go to family court, and spend an afternoon there to familiarize yourself with what you are going to go through. While there, get some business cards from lawyers who you think look good. Then go to the courtroom sheriff. Ask HIM who the best lawyer is !! He see's them all every day and he knows who's good and who isn't. TRUST ME ... my friend is a sheriff in family court and he's hooked up COUNTLESS people with good lawyers. Getting advice from a friend who THINKS he had a good one isn't good enough. Your friend may have gotten screwed and doesn't even know it.

Do NOT get all in a huff and move out. If at all possible, get HER to leave. It'll make it easier to prove your case and it'll make it easier for YOU to keep the house and possibly the kids. Remember, you want to be the most broke, poorest man on earth in the courts eyes. You want to be that guy who was shattered by his wife's cheating. You can always set up side money for your kids without the courts ( and your soon to be ex-wife ) knowing it.

 

yah i am with mayfair on this one. my parents are going threw a similar thing and my dad is just trying to stall my mom. mean while my mom is taking her marry old time to decide what to do. she should do what mayfiar sayed. start documenting everything, finding a lawyer, and in our case find an alternative place to stay.
and my dad is doing every thing your wife is doing, even the suicide part.

 

one more thing, depending on there age for your kids sake dont fight argue or let them hear anything that is going on (like the suicide and what not). later kinda give the more general over view of what is happening. it is extremely painful for kids to hear that stuff. just my .02

 

 

Jimmy,

Remember this is a open forum. Your posts are public, searchableand easily obtainable. Be careful.