not just chores does it, anything to keep them busy. They are showing that kids with active extracurricular lives(sports, or band, or hobbies, or whatever) are less likely to get into trouble and more likely to attend college. I know you can make a study say whatever you want it to, but it is logical.

Another bit of advice I read when I was a new daddy was to pretty much tell the kid from the time they are starting school that there is at least 16 years of school, after elementary school, there is Jr. High, then High school, then college. if you raise them to believe that their whole life they are more likely to go to college. Again, dont know if it is true, but I know my kids who are in 6th and 7th grade, believe that you HAVE TO go to college...at least right now they do. No matter what it costs me I am definitely not going to convince them any other way. I want them to be better educated than their dear old dad, and not have to attend the school of hard knocks to get by in life.

 

heres the cover page from the packet we received at the seminar. use the web adress on here for more info.

www.charliea.com

this is the work shop I took.



Workshops for Parent Groups
Responding Versus Reacting to Your Kids: Key Principles and Techniques for Effective Parenting.
Our most popular workshop for parents, this two- to eight-hour training covers the following areas:
[*]Managing number one, first (i.e. coping strategies that help parents stay calm under pressure)[*]Understanding the relationship between lack of support and punitive actions, and what to do when support is insufficient[*]The importance of understanding developmental stages[*]Appreciating the uniqueness of every child from a variety of perspectives[*]Tips to prevent problem behavior in the home[*]Building self-esteem in children and youth[*]Techniques to control tone and affect[*]Communication principles and strategies[*]How, why, and when to issue consequences[*]When and how to use incentives to motivate behavior[*]Helping children and youth to self-manage their behavior [/ul]
Each attendee receives a 30-page handout, which can be made available in advance.[/align]

 

very true... years back... many many years back I took my 2 girls & their 2 cousins to the grocery store... they thought it was a playground of sorts, running around causing a comotion. I calmly stopped shopping, parked the cart near the front doors and walked all 4 of them out to the car and let them have it. tossing out the athoritive (not sure if that's the right word or not) voice in a loud tone. told them they were not in a playground and they need to straighten up now. after about 1~2 minutes of going off, we went back into the store and picked up our cart and continued on our way. They were the nicest quietest kids in there and I never had a problem with them again in any store.

my suggestion is crack the whip on them and let them know who the boss is. and then teach them to treat others how they want to be treated...

 

Thanks for the advise Steve and Kevin

 

NOW get out there and let him know whats coming !!!