when i wired mine at first i said forget the instructions and just tried to straight wire them. after several hours i picked the instructions up and followed them and they worked perfectly. so all i can tell you is follow the instructions to the letter. hope you get them working.

 

And for future reference, so that diagram doesn't confuse anyone, this is the correct way to wire a four post relay. Although there are some oddball ones out there.

 

The diagram is just taking away the ground instead of the hot wire...

 

even better idea, just stick a couple of flashlights behind the grill to give the illusion that they are working

 

been using the instructions man

 

ok u can see my relay in the second pic top left. so it sounds like i need to ground the relay then ill be good??

 

I don't see any pics but yes ground the relay and you will be in business.

 

ok and on the first page

 

OK, I see 3 wires might be 4 but is there a zip tie on there???

 

no zip tie...