Look's like a move North is in our future.. :icon_snow:
Legend
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From: orangeville ontario
i don't think you have really lived there long enough to make a decision. i think your wife just needs to spend some more time getting use to the place. if she was a mama's girl she may need a bit more time than the typical person to adjust.
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From: Austin, TX
Tough break, stewie, but sometimes, choices are not easy. But there really isn't much choice that I see, or at least not but one that I could make. Gotta do what you gotta do.
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(we like you wherever you go...)
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Might be a bit mercenary.... but, I would be tempted to suggest she is welcome to go, but, you and the kids are staying.....
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From: NH
With that said, work it out or let her go. This way , I can move in .
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Compromising is actually harder than trusting. As far as I'm concerned, without compromise, the relationship is doomed. AS soon as one or the other person/party is ruling(for lack of a better word) what goes on in the relationship the other no longer feels love,caring, protected,provided for or trusted for that matter.
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From: Meeker, CO
Not that anyone should even consider taking relationship advice from me. I'm batting only .250 in the marriage game. But if my (current) wife who is and has always been the one great love of my life since we first met in 1978 were to give me that "with or without you" ultimatum my final gift to her would be packing boxes.
stewie01, I feel for ya man. It's a damnably difficult spot you're in.
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No relationship in which there is a protracted power struggle can survive, and any relationship in which the power struggle is avoided by one partner surrendering is always at risk because all it takes to end it is for the acquiescent partner to find a spine.
Not that anyone should even consider taking relationship advice from me. I'm batting only .250 in the marriage game. But if my (current) wife who is and has always been the one great love of my life since we first met in 1978 were to give me that "with or without you" ultimatum my final gift to her would be packing boxes.
stewie01, I feel for ya man. It's a damnably difficult spot you're in.
Not that anyone should even consider taking relationship advice from me. I'm batting only .250 in the marriage game. But if my (current) wife who is and has always been the one great love of my life since we first met in 1978 were to give me that "with or without you" ultimatum my final gift to her would be packing boxes.
stewie01, I feel for ya man. It's a damnably difficult spot you're in.
if you have any interest in staying in VA, this is what i would do-
assuming kids are not yet in school - find some kind of preschool, mothers morning out, play group, or something to get the wife and kids out of the house some. otherwise they go stir crazy.
pack up and visit GA every 1-2 months. over time it will begin to diminish some, but for now, just accept it. use caution with the weather in late Dec and Jan and stay off the roads when conditions suck. I once got caught on the highway during a winter storm and saw first hand how people get killed during storms.
get the grandparents a computer or smart phone or something and do the skype, email, pictures, facebook stuff between wife/kids and her family.
try to be understanding. women are a lot closer to their mothers/family than men are.
assuming kids are not yet in school - find some kind of preschool, mothers morning out, play group, or something to get the wife and kids out of the house some. otherwise they go stir crazy.
pack up and visit GA every 1-2 months. over time it will begin to diminish some, but for now, just accept it. use caution with the weather in late Dec and Jan and stay off the roads when conditions suck. I once got caught on the highway during a winter storm and saw first hand how people get killed during storms.
get the grandparents a computer or smart phone or something and do the skype, email, pictures, facebook stuff between wife/kids and her family.
try to be understanding. women are a lot closer to their mothers/family than men are.