Look's like a move North is in our future.. :icon_snow:
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I knew I should have packed up quick and moved down there. Not only can I fix just about anything, but me and grandpa would have been in the guest house (without the drug addict) in about an hour. LOL
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That's all you need to know. Chronic stress will compromise your health, and left unchecked it can kill. Children exposed to chronic stress are often affected both physically and mentally for life by it. If the only sure fix is to skedaddle, then point your truck at the horizon straight away and get after it. The truth is rarely unclear, it's just sometimes difficult to accept.
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Legend
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From: Fredericksburg, Virginia
Well guys we did get some good news today, neighbor man will be out by the 22nd of next month. I'd much rather it be the 22nd of this month, but I'll take what I can get.
Getting ride of him relieves a lot of stress, then we can nudge grandpa into the guest house, and we don't even have to nudge, he has plans to move into it...
Eventually he'll be in Fairfax, Va with his wife on a more permanent basis.
After another talk with the wifey today I think we will wait on a move to Ga. We can deal with the idiot for another month and change, then grandpa can have the guest house, sorry zman, but the top floor of the barn would make a nice loft if it was finished up...
Getting ride of him relieves a lot of stress, then we can nudge grandpa into the guest house, and we don't even have to nudge, he has plans to move into it...
Eventually he'll be in Fairfax, Va with his wife on a more permanent basis.
After another talk with the wifey today I think we will wait on a move to Ga. We can deal with the idiot for another month and change, then grandpa can have the guest house, sorry zman, but the top floor of the barn would make a nice loft if it was finished up...
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Well guys we did get some good news today, neighbor man will be out by the 22nd of next month. I'd much rather it be the 22nd of this month, but I'll take what I can get.
Getting ride of him relieves a lot of stress, then we can nudge grandpa into the guest house, and we don't even have to nudge, he has plans to move into it...
Eventually he'll be in Fairfax, Va with his wife on a more permanent basis.
After another talk with the wifey today I think we will wait on a move to Ga. We can deal with the idiot for another month and change, then grandpa can have the guest house, sorry zman, but the top floor of the barn would make a nice loft if it was finished up...
Getting ride of him relieves a lot of stress, then we can nudge grandpa into the guest house, and we don't even have to nudge, he has plans to move into it...
Eventually he'll be in Fairfax, Va with his wife on a more permanent basis.
After another talk with the wifey today I think we will wait on a move to Ga. We can deal with the idiot for another month and change, then grandpa can have the guest house, sorry zman, but the top floor of the barn would make a nice loft if it was finished up...
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Legend
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From: Fredericksburg, Virginia
I feel the need to vent...
I don't know why I even bother. One day she's happy and willing to try and make things work here and the next it's totally opposite.
There's more security here, but she doesn't see that. She says there's nothing for work here, which there isn't much, but there isn't much, if any more, in Fitz. But the place her mom works at recently had a layoff so her mom has already gotten her a job, or so they say. They said that last week about a different job, then it was, "well we can't hold it till she gets here".
So I ask, what happens when we get down there and they say the same thing, "oh well I'll just find another job". Well isn't that great.
Living around her family and drama central, there's always nonstop bull****, and we've escaped that here, but no, it's not good enough.
It puts me in a jam because I have to choose either to abandon my family up here to make her happy, or abandon my kids while she/they go to Georgia.
It's an easy choice, I'd choose my kids. But I'm so F&CKING tired of having to make that decision. My parents miss out on EVERY SINGLE birthday, holiday, family moment, etc... while her parents get them all. Perfect example in just a few days, my son turns 2 on the 29th, if we leave, it's the 20th or 21st, can't wait all month. So they didn't get to be there for his 1st birthday, and he'd be leaving just days before his 2nd.
In the near 5 years we lived in Georgia, we came up for 1 holiday, Christmas, 3 years ago.
My stepfather works for 2 different EMS services, often on a 24hr shift, and he just started the one, so no vacation time anytime soon. It's very difficult for them to schedule a trip down
I'm reaching the end of my rope, I'm tired of it all.
Sigh.
I don't know why I even bother. One day she's happy and willing to try and make things work here and the next it's totally opposite.
There's more security here, but she doesn't see that. She says there's nothing for work here, which there isn't much, but there isn't much, if any more, in Fitz. But the place her mom works at recently had a layoff so her mom has already gotten her a job, or so they say. They said that last week about a different job, then it was, "well we can't hold it till she gets here".
So I ask, what happens when we get down there and they say the same thing, "oh well I'll just find another job". Well isn't that great.
Living around her family and drama central, there's always nonstop bull****, and we've escaped that here, but no, it's not good enough.
It puts me in a jam because I have to choose either to abandon my family up here to make her happy, or abandon my kids while she/they go to Georgia.
It's an easy choice, I'd choose my kids. But I'm so F&CKING tired of having to make that decision. My parents miss out on EVERY SINGLE birthday, holiday, family moment, etc... while her parents get them all. Perfect example in just a few days, my son turns 2 on the 29th, if we leave, it's the 20th or 21st, can't wait all month. So they didn't get to be there for his 1st birthday, and he'd be leaving just days before his 2nd.
In the near 5 years we lived in Georgia, we came up for 1 holiday, Christmas, 3 years ago.
My stepfather works for 2 different EMS services, often on a 24hr shift, and he just started the one, so no vacation time anytime soon. It's very difficult for them to schedule a trip down
I'm reaching the end of my rope, I'm tired of it all.
Sigh.
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Need to figger out what is best for you, and your family, and take it from there.
Personally, I am not a fan of drama, and if the current distance is armor.... I would be real reluctant to give that up. How does your wife feel about the drama-inducing nature of her family?
Personally, I am not a fan of drama, and if the current distance is armor.... I would be real reluctant to give that up. How does your wife feel about the drama-inducing nature of her family?
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From: Fredericksburg, Virginia
Need to figger out what is best for you, and your family, and take it from there.
Personally, I am not a fan of drama, and if the current distance is armor.... I would be real reluctant to give that up. How does your wife feel about the drama-inducing nature of her family?
Personally, I am not a fan of drama, and if the current distance is armor.... I would be real reluctant to give that up. How does your wife feel about the drama-inducing nature of her family?
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From: Gainesville, Ga.
if you have any interest in staying in VA, this is what i would do-
assuming kids are not yet in school - find some kind of preschool, mothers morning out, play group, or something to get the wife and kids out of the house some. otherwise they go stir crazy.
pack up and visit GA every 1-2 months. over time it will begin to diminish some, but for now, just accept it. use caution with the weather in late Dec and Jan and stay off the roads when conditions suck. I once got caught on the highway during a winter storm and saw first hand how people get killed during storms.
get the grandparents a computer or smart phone or something and do the skype, email, pictures, facebook stuff between wife/kids and her family.
try to be understanding. women are a lot closer to their mothers/family than men are.
assuming kids are not yet in school - find some kind of preschool, mothers morning out, play group, or something to get the wife and kids out of the house some. otherwise they go stir crazy.
pack up and visit GA every 1-2 months. over time it will begin to diminish some, but for now, just accept it. use caution with the weather in late Dec and Jan and stay off the roads when conditions suck. I once got caught on the highway during a winter storm and saw first hand how people get killed during storms.
get the grandparents a computer or smart phone or something and do the skype, email, pictures, facebook stuff between wife/kids and her family.
try to be understanding. women are a lot closer to their mothers/family than men are.
